By Chad Napier
From my experience last year, one receives a ton advice from fellow married or formerly married individuals, e.g. “why ruin a good thing” or “glad you’ll be miserable like the rest of us.” My favorite, however, was “there’s nothing better than being married to the right woman and nothing worse than being married to the wrong one.”
My near 40-year run in the single life was an enjoyable one. You can do what you want and when you want without any real attachment. As a single guy no matter the age, you feel like you have a chance with any female with whom you have contact even though reality is far from the case.
It doesn’t take a psychology degree to see and hear the noticeable new Sergio Garcia. The tantrums have changed in both intensity and frequency. The body language shows one of peace and contentment no matter the circumstance. He finally found that true happiness and it had nothing to do with any success on a golf course. Garcia’s recent engagement to Angela Akins and new found love has given him that inner peace that is impossible to find at the office.
Attitude is so important in golf. Years ago Garcia publicly announced, “I will never win a major, I am not good enough.” He proved himself wrong at Augusta Sunday.
What an awesome new jacket, the members of Augusta National GC gave me tonight, don't you think?😍 pic.twitter.com/grvu8ZIhi6
— Sergio Garcia (@TheSergioGarcia) April 10, 2017
No matter how successful legal career or even a day I have, it means much more when you have someone special with whom to share it. The Tour life may sound and seem easy and luxurious, but it’s still a job. Being alone in different cities each week is great, but as a 23 year old the single party life quickly gets old.
During my first ten years as an attorney, I frequently traveled alone and single throughout the southeast. Being in great cities like New Orleans, Orlando, Miami, Mobile was great, but staying in a hotel room alone certainly wears on the soul and leads to late night calls and texts to exes or anyone who may be up.
A high profile athlete certainly has many want to be suitors at the events. The music industry refers to these groupies as “diesel sniffers” since they follow the tour bus from place to place hoping to get that “one shining moment.”
Many label the Waste Management tournament as just a party crowd who know nothing or care nothing about golf, but at any PGA Tour event you can see groups who fit that label. You know the ones I am talking about, the ones in high heels and short sundresses on a cell phone looking back to make sure Hillary is still with her. These “ladies” fit the need of the week, but provide no sustainable emotional support.
Sergio headed into the final round tied with Justin Rose and built a two-stroke lead on the front before the normal “cringe worthy” moments happened. Most of the viewers had to think it was over on hole 13. Instead, Sergio reversed the curse and made an unbelievable par gaining momentum. Later, the putter, which led to his demise many times, came through for him as he made clutch putts including an eagle on the par five fifteenth hole.
Plenty of other golfers are examples of the latter premise of nothing worse than being with the wrong woman. Some can regroup and move on to a high level of play again, but a few have never found that consistent magic.
Dustin Johnson was known for years as a player with more talent than most on tour, yet wasting it, not fulfilling his potential, not focusing on winning. All that changed when he became engaged to Paulina Gretzky in August of 2013. They welcomed their first child, son Tatum Gretzky Johnson, on January 19, 2015. Paulina announced in February that their second child is on the way.
Having the “Great One” Wayne Gretzky as a future father-in-law is thought by many to one of the key’s to Johnson new found success. Paulina’s father and Johnson are said to be very close friends and has found a mentor and motivator in Gretzky. Johnson has achieved the No. 1 ranking in the world, and won his first major at the 2016 US Open since he became part of the Gretzky family.
As many can relate, there is nothing better than playing good golf, but nothing worse than playing bad golf!
Congratulations to Sergio and Angela on this historic Masters win!
Chad Napier is an attorney who when not in the court room travels around the country playing golf every chance he get’s. Along the way he has made friends with PGA Tour players, caddies, and fan’s like you and me. You can follow Chad on Twitter at @ChaddyNap